tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-71953406446088805062024-03-13T04:01:06.636-07:00Celebrities & Serial MonogamyCelebrities are famous for their multiple romantic relationships, sometimes referred to as the "Hollywood- Marry-Go-Round." Dumping one love to proceed to the next is known as "serial monogamy." But perhaps there is a beter way.Tom Gruberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15024941591382297688noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7195340644608880506.post-70330938084598788582008-06-21T10:06:00.000-07:002008-07-28T08:10:58.128-07:00<span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"><strong>Description: <em>Celebrities sex life, serial monogamy, and polyamory.</em></strong></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">What do Angelina Jolie, Britney Spears, Tom Cruise, and Ed McMahon have in common?</span></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br />Of course, all three of them are celebrities. But more than that, all three are serial monogamists. And since most adults have been involved in multiple monogamous relationships throughout the course of their lifetime, then it's fair to say that most adults, celebrity or not, are serial monogamists. Nevertheless, this <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">phenomenon</span> seems <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">especially</span> prevelant among celebrities.</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">According to <em>People </em>Magazine, as of June 21, 2008, Angelina Jolie is the third most buzzed about star as of this minute! The Hot List shows the most buzzed about celebs of the moment as measured by reader activity on </span></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/static/h/package/top25celebrityhotlist/index.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">People.com</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">. Here is the Top Ten:<br /><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/jamie_lynn_spears/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/jamie_lynn_spears/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">1 Jamie Lynn Spears</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/britney_spears/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/britney_spears/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">2 Britney Spears</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/angelina_jolie/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/angelina_jolie/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">3 Angelina Jolie</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/brad_pitt/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/brad_pitt/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">4 Brad Pitt</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/rihanna/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/rihanna/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">5 <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Rihanna</span></span></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/nicole_kidman/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/nicole_kidman/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">6 Nicole <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Kidman</span></span></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/sienna_miller/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/sienna_miller/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">7 Sienna Miller</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/keira_knightley/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/keira_knightley/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">8 <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Keira</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Knightley</span></span></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/julia_roberts/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"></a><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/julia_roberts/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">9 Julia Roberts</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/blake_lively/0,,,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">10 Blake Lively</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><br /><br /><br />Consider the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">love life</span> of each of these celebrities, as it relates to serial monogamy.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><strong>Jamie Lynn Spears<br /></strong></span><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Jamie Lynn is the baby sister of Britney Spears. As of this writing, Casey Aldridge is her <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">fiancé</span> and they've been a couple since 2005.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong>Britney Spears<br /></strong>On September 07, 2000, Britney Spears and singer Justin <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">Timberlake</span> went public with their romance at the MTV Video Music Awards. But in March, 2002, Britney confirmed that she and Justin were no longer seeing each other. Britney told <em>People </em>Magazine:<br /><br />"[The breakup] was horrible. Very upsetting and it took a lot out of me. He was my first real love, and I doubt I'll ever be able to love anyone like that ever again. But I'd rather spend two days with my <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">soulmate</span> than the rest of my life with some guy who doesn't mean as much."<br /><br /></span></span><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Then on January 2, 2004, Britney married her childhood friend Jason Alexander in <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">Las</span> Vegas. The marriage was annulled after 55 hours. Spears told Matt <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">Lauer</span> it was an act of rebellion, prompted by a demanding performance schedule.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;">Next, on April 23, 2004, Britney hooked up with </span></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/kevin_federline"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Kevin <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">Federline</span></span></span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, a backup dancer, and they become a couple. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">Shar</span> Jackson, who was <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12">Federline's</span> girlfriend prior to this, was also pregnant with his second child. Jackson told <em>People</em> Magazine: "This just isn't right."<br /></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">On September 23, 2004, Spears and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_13">Federline</span> </span></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,26334,699374,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">married in a surprise ceremony</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"> in Studio City, California, at a private home. She described the wedding as "my fairy tale dream."<br /><br />On September 14, 2005, Spears </span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,26334,1107631,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">gave birth</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"> to son Sean Preston by C-section at UCLA Medical Center. He weighed 6-lb. 11-oz. While pregnant, Spears told <em>People</em> Magazine, "I find being pregnant empowering. I think it brings out a pure side of you, and I think that's cool."</span><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">In August, 2006, Spears was six months pregnant with her second child. She appeared nude on the August cover of <em>Harper's Bazaar</em> with her hands placed over her breasts. "It made me want to cry a little bit, doing these photos," she tells the magazine. "I started feeling like myself again." On September 12, Spears </span></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,26334,1532475,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">gave birth</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"> to son <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_14">Jayden</span> James. "It just kind of happened," Spears told <em>People</em> Magazine of her second pregnancy. On November 07, after appearing on David Letterman's Late Show, Britney </span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,26334,1556563,00.html"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">filed for a divorce</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"> from </span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/kevin_federline"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_15" style="font-size:130%;">Federline</span></span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, citing "irreconcilable differences."<br /><br />In January, 2007, she was romantically linked with Isaac Cohen. After Spears split with Cohen, she hooked up with her current boyfriend, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_16">Adnan</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_17">Ghalib</span>.</span><br /><br /></span><br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Britney's ex-boyfriend, Justin <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_18">Timberlake</span>, has been linked with the following women:</span></p><br /><br /><p><a href="http://www.people.com/people/jessica_biel"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Jessica <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_19">Biel</span></span></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">, girlfriend (2007 to present)</span></p><br /><br /><p><a href="http://www.people.com/people/cameron_diaz"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Cameron <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_20">Diaz</span></span></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">, ex-girlfriend (2003 to 2007) </span></p><br /><br /><p><a href="http://www.people.com/people/britney_spears"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Britney Spears</span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, ex-girlfriend (2000 to 2002) </span><br /></span></p><br /><br /><p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><strong>Angelina Jolie</strong></span></p><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><a href="http://www.people.com/people/brad_pitt"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Brad Pitt</span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, boyfriend (2005 to present) </span><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Billy Bob Thornton, ex-husband (2000 to 2003) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_21"></span></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error">Jonny</span> Lee Miller, ex-husband (1995 to 1997) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Brad Pitt</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Angelina Jolie, girlfriend (2005 to present) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Jennifer <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_22">Aniston</span>, ex-wife (1998 to 2005) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Gwyneth <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_23">Paltrow</span>, ex-girlfriend (1995 to 1997, engaged) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_24"></span></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error">Jitka</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_25">Pohlodek</span>, ex-girlfriend (1993 to 1995) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Juliette Lewis, ex-girlfriend (1990 to 1993) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Robin Givens, ex-girlfriend (1989) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Jill <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_26">Schoelen</span>, ex-girlfriend (1988) </span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_27"></span></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span class="blsp-spelling-error">Rihanna</span></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Chris Brown, boyfriend (2008 to present)</span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Nicole <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_28">Kidman</span></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Keith Urban, husband (2005 to present) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Lenny <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_29">Kravitz</span>, ex-boyfriend (July 2003 to Dec. 2003) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Tom Cruise, ex-husband (1990 to 2001)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Tom Cruise has been linked with:</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/katie_holmes"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Katie Holmes</span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, wife (2005 to present)</span><br /><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/penelope_cruz"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_30">Penélope</span> Cruz</span></span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, ex-girlfriend (2001 to 2004)</span><br /><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/nicole_kidman"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Nicole <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_31">Kidman</span></span></span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, ex-wife (1990 to 2001)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Mimi Rogers, ex-wife (1986 to 1990) </span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Sienna Miller</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Rhys <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_32">Ifan</span>, boyfriend (2007 to present) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Jamie Burke, ex-boyfriend (2007)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Jude Law, ex-boyfriend (2003 to 2006, on and off, engaged)</span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_33"></span></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span class="blsp-spelling-error">Keira</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_34">Knightley</span></strong></span><br /></span><a href="http://www.people.com/people/julia_roberts/0,,,00.html" name="celebrityrollover"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></a><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Rupert Friend, boyfriend (2006 to present) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Jamie <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_35">Dornan</span>, ex-boyfriend (2003 to 2005) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Del <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_36">Synnott</span>, ex-boyfriend (2001 to 2003) </span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Julia Roberts</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Danny Moder, husband (2002 to present)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Benjamin <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_37">Bratt</span>, ex-boyfriend (1997 to 2001)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Matthew Perry, ex-boyfriend (1996)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Lyle <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_38">Lovett</span>, ex-husband (1993 to 1995)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Jason Patric, ex-boyfriend (1991 to 1992)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_39"></span></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error">Kiefer</span> Sutherland, ex-boyfriend (1990 to 1991, engaged)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Dylan <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_40">McDermott</span>, ex-boyfriend (1988 to 1990, engaged)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Liam <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_41">Neeson</span>, ex-boyfriend (1987 to 1988)</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Blake Lively</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Penn <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_42">Badgley</span>, boyfriend (2008 to present) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Kelly Blatz, ex-boyfriend (2004 to 2007)</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">So out of the top ten most buzzed about celebs of the moment, only two are not serial monogamist. Why are the vast majority of celebrities serial monogamists? And why are so many non-celebrities serial monogamists? </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Scientifically, there's strong evidence that suggests that humans are simply not naturally monogamous. This theory was put forth in the Marilyn Monroe movie <em><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Seven_Year_Itch">The Seven Year Itch</a></em>. Since then, the titular phrase "seven year itch," which refers to a disinterest in a </span></span><a class="mw-redirect" title="Monogamous relationship" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monogamous_relationship"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">monogamous relationship</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"> after seven years of marriage, has entered the popular culture. It has also been used by psychologists. (See </span><a href="http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20000101-000007.html"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><em>The Ties That Unbind</em> </span></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">by </span><a class="textSub" style="TEXT-DECORATION: none" href="mailto:letters@psychologytoday.com"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;color:#000000;">Aaron Dalton</span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">, an article from <em>Psychology Today</em>.) </span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Another term that casts doubt on the notion that we are naturally monogamous is the catch-phrase "</span></span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">The Coolidge Effect</span></a><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:arial;">." This term describes phenomena seen in nearly every species whereby males show continuously high sexual performance given the introduction of new receptive females. The notion of society is that we can't start a new romantic relationship until we end a current romantic relationship. So if Angelina had all of her ex-lovers moved in with her and Brad, and if all Brad's ex-lovers were to move in with him and Angelina, everyone would say "How naughty!"</span> <span style="font-family:arial;">Yet there are revolutionary <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_43">Utopians</span> who insist that such a radical lifestyle not only can work, but often does work. One term for this arrangement is "Open Marriage." This was suggested in </span></span><a class="new" title="Nena O'Neill (page does not exist)" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Nena_O%27Neill&action=edit&redlink=1"><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_44">Nena</span> O'Neill</span></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"> and </span><a title="George O'Neill" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_O%27Neill"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">George O'Neill</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"> 1972 book </span><a class="new" title="Open Marriage (book) (page does not exist)" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Open_Marriage_%28book%29&action=edit&redlink=1"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><em>Open Marriage</em></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><em>,</em> which sold over 1.5 million copies. Another term is "polyamory," which means "many loves." It seems peculiar that romantic relationships are the only arena where variety is not the spice of life.</span></span>Tom Gruberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15024941591382297688noreply@blogger.com0